If you’ve suspected your spouse is cheating on you then you have two options, either you find the proof for yourself or you ask them outright.
Asking them outright might get to the bottom of their behavior once and for all, but do you have enough evidence to back up your accusation?
One way to do this is to use modern technology to catch them out once and for all, which ironically is often the medium cheating spouses use to cheat on their partners. But it’s not as hard as you think, and you don’t have to have a degree in computer science either.
How they use their cell phone will be big indicator of what they are up to. They may change their tone of voice while speaking on the phone when you walk into a room.
Or perhaps they seem to be phoning their friends more than usual, but they’re using monotone answers like, “Yes”, “No” or “OK” instead of making general conversation when they notice you’re watching them.
Have they changed the passwords on all their email accounts and blocked you out? They may have a very good reason for doing this, one way to find out is to ask them.
Most people find it uncomfortable to tell lies, so watch them closely and see how they react to your questioning. If they can’t look you in the eye and look shifty then perhaps they’re not being totally honest with you.
If you suspect your partner of having an affair and using the computer to communicate with their lover, then you can check your computer’s ‘History’ section.
This will show you all the websites visited for a period of time, sometimes it’s a week, often it’s a few months depending on your browser. By searching through this list of websites visited you should be on the look for adult chat websites, pornographic websites, dating websites and so forth.
It could also be that when you check the ‘History’ section on your computer that it has been completely cleared showing no previous websites at all. This can be a strong indicator of a spouse or partner who has something to hide.
It goes without saying before who do any of these actions you have to be very sure you can handle the truth when you find out for certain one way or the other. But you may find it’s better to know one way or the other, than live your life always suspecting you’re living with a cheat.